Sunday, August 29, 2010

Some Conversations Only Have Beginnings & Middles

in my glass: water. go me! :)

Book: amazingggg book about Hunter S. Thompson "Gonzo" (jojo posted about it before and she just lent it to me) I'm crazy busy so I'm crawling through it, but I loveeeee it. I loveeee HST and I still don't understand why. haha.

Music: I got turned onto "The Script" I'm completely in love but I think I already out played it so I'm listening to Lee Dewyze again, I like the mellow happy music for when I'm doing design work...

TV: You guys will all be so proud of me. I have finally begun my LOST final adventure. Pre-order on Amazon is amazing! I'm already on disk 3 (but tonight I was too tired to pay attention and I really have a lot of homework to do)

Movie: in lue/luei/lui (I never knew how to spell that) of watching serious LOST I watched 'The Back-Up Plan' I don't like Jennifer Lopez as a person, I think shes a diva but she does do good movies and the guy in the movie is so freaking cute. SUCH an unpractical movie though, I kinda hate those, these are the movies that make women crazy and think that's what real life is... haha

Best thing that happened: My cousin Tiffany got married on Saturday! I got my friend, Eddy, the photography gig so we got their really early so I got to help set up but it was one of the funnest and best weddings I've ever been too. It was so casual but still romantic and it was beautiful weather, I'm sure Eddy got amazing photos because of the lighting. It was just a generally amazing time and if I were do get married (don't hold your breath, maybe when I'm 40 lol) that will be my wedding.

Funny thing that happened: My friend, I'll rename her as Sam (Cause I don't have a single friend named Sam) so Sam meets this guy at a bar and its really loud so when they are exchanging names he says his name is "Harpi, like Happy" and she says "Harpi?" and he says "yes" but its really loud. They ended up hitting it off so they have been seeing each other and talking and such but anytime she says his name he makes a joke. the second time they met up she said "Harpi" and he joked "oh you remember my name?" and laughed. But now its been like 2 weeks and they've hung out so many times that can't just ask him what his name is and she tried looking at his license but "Harpi" is a nickname short for some Indian name that she can't pronounce so shes basically just landed herself a boyfriend that she doesn't know the name of. It's hilarious. we have a few problem solver scenarios we can put into action if it becomes a crisis lol.


I got really excited with jojo's red flag list so now I'm making my official red flag, blue flag, turn-off, turn-on and deal breaker list. they're always exceptions for everything but I'd like to think these are concrete. okay, ready, set, go!

(I'm totally stealing a bunch of these from jojos blog and everyones posts, I will give everyone their credit lol)

1. Amanda: Jesus Fish, alarms would totally go off, not only so much if it was a magnet on his car but if it was a tattoo on his arm, I would run. And I have seen this before.
2. Eque: Hunting/HateforAnimals. I have a love affair with any living thing be it a fish or a big fluffy dog, I'm quite convinced that I could make best friends with a bear; Polar, Grizzly, you name it. I'm on it. I'm not a PETA protester or any kind of animal activist but those Sarah Machlan commercials do make me cry. Plus the "hunter" kind of guy is so NOT my type.
3. Republican. I should put this on the dealbreaker list, but I do always give the guy a chance. Although the last guy I "dated" I gave him too many chances, he was not only a republican but he hated Obama, didn't vote and isn't registered. (and he opinions and my rule is that you can't have political opinions if you're not registered and don't vote.) I wore my "I only date democrats" Tshirt just to piss him off. haha.
4. Jojo: Mullet hair, handlebar mustache or anything else of the sort...unless its a gag joke and its temporary because I do get a kick out of that. and if a guy can still pull those looks off even for a joke, hes a keeper. LOL
5. Lack of education is still a red flag for me, I know y'all had objections to that but I'm sorry at my age if you're not pursuing an education your basically lazy (that would be my first impression) and I said it had to be a Bachelors or higher because a lot of lazy people out there go and get there AA just to have and still do nothing. this is obviously a flag that has many exceptions but at first my red flag is being raised.

BLUE FLAGS (good things- in all honesty its everything the opposite of the red flag but I'll do a list anyways.)
1. to not be repetitive I'll do all the "opposites" on #1. So blue flag's for the following: has a bachelors degree or higher or is pursuing such at a good school. registered democrat that's in love with Obama. (I'm on the opposite of Kat, if a guy is in LOVE with his pets, especially a dog, that's like 5 blue flags in one.)
2. if he's not into sports. you all know how I feel.
3. to further that, if he doesn't watch the "new shows" you all know, besides LOST, the only shows I watch are re-run sitcoms and movies.
4. if he can remember stuff. Its amazing how bad some guys are! If I'm hanging out with you all day and you can't remember something I said to you 3-4 hours ago, its kind of insulting. I don't believe in bad memory. haha.
5. an artist in some way shape or form. well not performance, I "dated" an actor and an actor is just a really good liar, haha and its really annoying to hear them talk about how they're gonna move to Hollywood and become famous and blah blah blah. a little reality maybe? but yes artist in all other shapes and forms I always love the idea of artist that are related to my kind of art because its cool to have that connection and understanding of what each other do.

1. guitar playing. I would date a hairy man if he could play amazing guitar. actually no I wouldn't but I would maybe consider it. haha.
2. suspenders. I don't know what it is but I find suspenders un-naturally sexy. I could jump Larry King's bones. Okay, I'm lying again, but its a funny thought.
3. humor. of course. I like laughing.
4. cologne/good smells. I used to feel really uncomfortable when old fat teachers would wear cologne because they would smell soooo good yet I was so repulsed by them. cologne is very dangerous. the Axe commercials are real.
5. Manners. I never really thought I cared about this, until I met guys that have no manners. And I don't mean opening the car door or holding the door open for me but please and thank you's go a long way so you'd have to imagine bigger manners than that go even further.

1. Smoking. anything, everything, even nothing. I've dated smokers, so its not a dealbreaker for me, but I certainly don't like it. Although I will admit, sometimes, some guys can look really sexy with a cigarette in their lips. (aka James Dean)
2. HAIR! you all know how I feel. clean shaven facial = okay (and usually kinda sexy) long hair and/or chest hair = makes me wanna puke...on your hair.
3. I call it Gangster Style. if you talk or write in ebonics, walk like an idiot and think its cool to say nigga, pop a cap or anything else retarded like that. gross.
4. highly into fashion. its one thing to enjoy shopping, like a tshirt, pair of jeans, have good style. you should not subscribe to fashion magazines and know more designers than me (and I don't know THAT many.)
5. republican. can I put that again? because really if you tell me you're a republican I might walk away. haha.

1. Long-distance. nope, nope, nope.
2. Military (jo might say something about this because I almost did date a guy in the army) That's not the lifestyle for me, it was a big reason why me and that fella didn't end up dating. for 1.) its long distance 2.) dangerous and I'd be constantly worrying 3.) if things got serious I could end up away from my family and I'm not okay with that.
3. Friends ex-boyfriends, ex-boyfriends, friends. these are definite deal breakers but I really want to include family of friends, and friends of family but I'm sure there could possibly be some exceptions, although its always been a dealbreaker in the past
4. younger than me. i don't even like dating guys my own age why would I want to go younger? always older.
5. way older than me (haha) I would have no problem dating a guy who was 30 or around that, but then I think its weird that they want to date a 21 year old.


  1. these are great, kylee!!! a sense of humor is an absolute requirement for me, so lack thereof would be a dealbreaker. i don't think i mentioned that on jo's blog.

    i told my boss i wouldn't like someone who was into sports and he warned me that i shouldn't limit myself too much. but it's not like i'm on a quest or anything. it's just how i feel.

    but i hope you find that funny, artistic, clean-shaven, democratic (would independent or green work?), animal-loving, well mannered, educated guy. and i hope he appreciates what a wonderful person you are and how lucky he is to be with you!

  2. at first I thought you said "I wouldn't mention that on jos blog" and i was so confused as to why haha

    yeah, im not looking either its just fun to think of the stuff. I am honestly perfectly content being single but my family is always trying to set me up, I can't bring around any guy friends without them wanting me to marry them lol

    yano, I say this is my list but I've honestly dated all of these kinds of guys, when you met a guy sometimes everything just goes out the window. I mean come on, I dated a republican!!! hahaha

    butt ooo I just realized, we are both the only (is that right?) single girls on the blog now! we can share our dating stories! hahaha

  3. that sounds like fun, kylee, but i'm afraid i'd disappoint you with a very thin story. i haven't "dated" in 30 years, lol! but i can date vicariously through you, haha!

  4. but I don't date either! I was hoping to date vicariously through you! haha we'll be each others inspiration haha

  5. Turn ons:
    Sense of humor - that means both has one and appreciates mine.

    Intelligence -- helps if he's smarter than me, because I suck at playing dumb.

    Enjoys the arts -- including musicals, concerts and museums

    Reasonably good looking - no Brad Pitt, but not Quasimodo either

    Neat and well dressed -- doesn't spend more time getting ready to go out than I do, but is reliably neat and situationally appropriate. Flip flops at the symphony are a no-no.

    Thinks that I'm fascinating -- but doesn't fold easily

    Travels well - enjoys new things/places and is open to experiences

    Radical anything -- it's boring and smacks of a narrow mind

    Piercings and excessive tatoos - just a personal thing with me. I could handle an earring, and probably a tat or too if they weren't huge and scary weird, but no more than that.

    Disrespectful of anyone -- how he treats others is a real good indicator of how I'll be treated (learned this one the hard way)

    Uneducated -- I always tried to say that a college degree wasn't necessary - it really doesn't show how smart you are. BUT 2 degree-less exes and one soulmate with a Masters degree later, what I find is that it is a really, really good indicator of someone's ability to set and achieve a goal, and make immediate sacrifices for a greater longterm good. And that means a lot more to me than I ever thought that it would.

    Unkempt hair - well groomed mustache/beard are okay but honestly prefer clean shaven. Chest hair can be okay; back hair? Nooooooooo.

    Political affiliation has never mattered much to me as long as they weren't radically predisposed one way or the other. I'm a moderate, and radicalism and intolerance are dealbreakers.

    I would love to love artists, but had consistently bad experiences. I'm fascinated by - even drawn to - them, but the artistic temperment doesn't seem to mesh well with my own. So I continue to gaze fondly from afar.

    Your friend's experience with the name is a crack up. I had a student from the Maldives in one of my classes years ago - shoulder length gorgeous black hair, flawless dark complexion and to this day I have no idea what gender!! The name gave no clue, and they always wore jeans and golf shirts -- like every one else. I'll never know...

    Enjoy Lost. They were robbed at the Emmys last night. Terry Quinn should have totally nailed that best supporting actor award...or at least shared it with Emerson.

  6. those are good, pearl!

    i agree about lost.... don't get it.

  7. These are all good! We should write a book that would rival "He's Just Not That Into You." (Kylee do you still have that book i gave you?)

    Kylee, your Harpi story is hilarious.

    Dealbreaker for me would be the military. I was only doing red flags. But definitely the military. I HATED so much moving all the time and being a military brat. It's why i hate going anywhere still i swear.

    Turn Ons: How comfortable he is in his skin when he is out of his own element, i.e. conversing with YOUR friends and family when he firsts meets them.

    I also like men who can be self-deprecating in a fun way. (Like Jon Stewart). I don't want a cocky man or one who is down on himself but it is fun when they can make fun of themselves.

    Definitely the artist thing. It didn't hurt Brian one bit when i found out he was a photographers. AND he could play guitar. (I just wish he could remember/know the songs to lyrics! LOL)

    Anyone who is not trying hard to impress me is a turn on.

    Kylee i don't see you dating a younger man because i haven't met one your age yet who could hang with you and your quick and wordly mind. But not too old either.

  8. Pearl -- I'm with you on the good looking, too good looking is never a good thing, they are usually really cocky anyways

    I dont like piercings but I LOVE tattoos.

    did LOST get anything at the emmys?

    Jojo-- you know I lent the book to a friend when she was going through boyfriend stuff the book was perfect for (she was over and actually asked to borrow it, i couldnt really say no) and she never gave it back, i even shamelessly asked her to mail it to me and now she moved to austrlia. i'm kinda pissed.

    yeah I could never move away from the family and i wouldnt want to start all over on friends and everything. plus the stress when he's overseas would drive me crazy

    Jo-- are you hinting to something about "How comfortable he is in his skin when he is out of his own element, i.e. conversing with YOUR friends and family when he firsts meets them. " i know you are! haha

    I agree, making fun of yourself and also not freaking out if you look like an idiot. i always laugh off embarrasing things, you should be able too too.

    Yeah any guys that have been younger or JUST my age, never make it very far. the ones that have been a year older or so have all been intellectuals (UW students and such) so it kinda evens out. intellect rasies your age somehow. haha.

  9. Jo-- are you hinting to something about "How comfortable he is in his skin when he is out of his own element, i.e. conversing with YOUR friends and family when he firsts meets them. " i know you are! haha

    LOLOLOL.... i'm actually talking about YOU and Ashley. Or more to the point. The two Eddies! LOL.